The shorter end of the stick

For most relationships to be successful, there must be a balance between the couple. In generations before, people stayed in the relationship no matter how unbalanced things are. In psychology, it's thought of as 'the inability to engage in a secure relationship' perhaps because of our own parents relationship. It's some sort of learning that probably created some fear, bad habits or just a gentle mix of both. It's not an easy task, breaking away from what we have witnessed as 'regular behaviour'. Yet what is 'regular' to one may not be that to another. We forget that sweeping it under the mat, is not going to get rid of the problem. We will continuously believe that what we did was right, and that the other party misunderstood. This is a very common perception amongst couples who seek counselling. With an enrichment of society, education and income, it's easier now to walk away, and take another shot at a better life. This is provided that we find the balance in another person, and that we do have TIME left in our life to do so. Unfortunately for most, we pass the 'bail out' time, and for whatever silly reason, we stay only to rationalise that, we just got the shorter end of the stick.