It's human nature - to desire the attention from family, peers, colleagues, neighbours and people around us in general.
In my life, I have never, ever, wanted to be a 'hive mind'. I work hard to make sure I maintain my individuality.
Some 15 years ago, I threw out an ungrateful teen, who was bent on being with her biological dad, who never paid a cent in maintenance for her since the day she was born. But because he had since remarried with 3 new children in tow, she was pretty much stuck with me, in my house, with my rules.
Of course, she was found out and even after many warnings to behave and focus on her GCE, she persisted in betraying my trust by getting an abortion.
Once I pieced everything together, I decided to grant her, her dream and wish. I sent her packing to her biological father.
6 years after the fact, she text me, and in that message, claimed for me to be a tyrant, always angry.
Now, I am not always angry - I'm only like that, with her - she is BAD NEWS.
2 years ago, I found out she was in touch with my 2nd ex-husbands' family and him, of course. She was always hung up to have a unique surname - my 2nd Ex, is Eurasian. It was obvious she was, because in his late mothers obituary, her name was included in the list of grandchildren.
I didn't care about anything, as long as I didn't have to see her. I don't care much about being in some social event with people I don't care about - funeral or not.
2 days ago, my son, received a call from the CID here. For the record, CID here does not investigate petty crime.
They asked him about this failure of a person, who is his half-sister by birth.
Apparently she is involved in some crime and they are searching for her.
I have lived my life, till today, with not a shred of regret for throwing her out. I cut ties with family, because people there thought I was being harsh.
TODAY, they have been proven wrong.
I am RIGHT.
Had I taken their advice, I'm sure my son, would have been influenced and exposed to her deceit and lies. One can only guess what values he would have to balance.
Had I taken their advice, the police would have broken down my door, in search of her.
SO, Karma may be slow sometimes to show us her hand, but when she does, victory is more than sweet.
My son told me, MOM, YOU ARE RIGHT.
Yes I am.
It pays to do your own thinking - don't be sheep. Do what you have to do, because you have to do it. In the end, no one is going to solve your troubles for you. People never show up when you need them. So the sooner you figure that out, the better.
I learnt that when I was a teenager, watching my emotionally unbalanced mother being totally uninterested in being a parent.
I know I turned out right - only because I burnt bridges.
To be proven RIGHT, for burning a HUGE BRIDGE, is simply awesome.
No comments:
Post a Comment