This is a tough one for everyone I'm sure. Because, although people do not really change in personality - what they do causes a reaction which 'changes' the other persons behaviour in response. Complicated it may sound but that's the crux of it all.
When we are in love with someone, we will go to the end of the rainbow and dig for that supposed pot of gold, eventhough the brutal truth is, there isn't any real pot of gold, because the rainbow doesn't really end! When we love someone, we would humour that idea and leave it at that OR have a really silly argument about facts versus fiction and just plod on. The differences in opinion will add on to that baggage of 'how different we are'.
When we are in love, he may say something silly, and we get all tickled and fired up with laughter. When you love someone and he says the same thing on a wretched day, we chide him for being insensitive and tell him to stop making fun of us.
When we are in love, any gesture is received as being loving and thoughtful. When it's someone we love, it's expected.
It's not usually the years that cause this to happen but more the heated squabbles, and the 2-camp situations that promotes this separation between the couple.
I may sound like relationships are just separations waiting to happen - but that's not it either. After all the hot air and passion has faded off and we have one foot in the grave - it may be safer to be with someone you love and not someone you're in love with, because it's no longer about excitement, but more about tolerance and companionship.
Not that people do not go to the grave being in love, but that is my honest opinion and I'm not afraid to ruin the fairy tale.
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