Mr Avoidance

In my line of work, I meet drastically different people - the upfront, the outspoken, the quiet, the straightforward, the crook, the show-off....the list goes on. But to actually watch a person who totally avoids responsibility and confrontation is disgusting. I agree, we may have tendencies to avoid a confrontation by walking the other way, but when that confrontation is hinging upon one's responsibility, then walking the other way means that we are irresponsible.

If a person is single and accountable only for himself, then fine, be irresponsible, since whatever we choose to ignore will only affect us in the long run and no one else. But if the person has to be responsible for a kid, and then side-steps the confrontation by falling asleep, or feigning illness - then that person has more issues than the average individual in any population.

For the many many unhappy years I have had in my last permanent relationship, I have tolerated not just shortcomings, but irresponsible behavior such as this. If there was an exam and he couldn't pass it, he would pretend to be in a car accident so that he will not just be excused, but he would also throw the focus on another totally different issue. Perhaps, having done that half his life, he felt that he's a master at his craft and that he won't get caught. Unfortunately for him, his MO is too obvious and having executed it inefficiently, he's as good as chopped meat - and I will continue to mince this person until there is nothing left. It's not about taking revenge - it's about what right such people have to live on this planet in the first place.
WE do not need a letter from the public housing department to tell us if we are eligible to buy a flat - WE NEED a psych assessment of people, before allowing them to have kids or to get married.

Mr Avoidance may not be a psycho, but he has the capacity to drive a person to madness, simply because it's difficult to find a close duplicate - people complain about gamblers, alcoholics, workaholics, but that's just a social problem - avoiding issues in our lives doesn't stem from society, but it originates from the individual and his idea of being responsible. Avoidance is not anywhere near being responsible - it's pushing the buck to the next person so that they can spare themselves the trouble. They should be locked up and never see the sun rise again - because they just take up space, on this overcrowded earth.