have & have nots

I spent some time yesterday, educating my colleague on the differences between the 'haves' and 'have nots'. When dealing with the 'haves', there are some protocols to observe, because in that category, there are the 'old' ,the 'new', and the 'self-made' who operate on different modes.
As they are the 11% of the households here, if you're in the circle, you're in, if you're not, you'll not be until perhaps the next generation, literally.
The ones who are most courteous and probably the most well-bred, would be the 'old haves'. They are extremely polite and observe social etiquette all the time. They are not false but exude an aura of warmth and sincerity - probably because they never did have to work themselves into that circle.
The 'new haves' tend to be a little more difficult to handle, since they have recently arrived, and may need to make a statement to the society at large. They tend to be a little less certain in their general behaviour, always looking over their shoulder and trying to blend in. With that as a priority, sometimes, they overlook the crucial detail that will tell them apart - social etiquette.
The 'self-made' are probably the worst, especially if they have not reached 60 years of age. Their underlying tone is pompous and arrogant without them being conscious. This is probably because there is this unconscious need for them to 'advertise' their success. This group will never be in the 'old' group, simply because it's tough to compete with breeding.
If you wanted a dog with a good bloodline, you'd go into the parentage etc. Breeders take the trouble to know who the parents, grandparents, great-grandparents are.
Likewise, a lot of behaviour has a biological start point.
Luck of course doesn't check our heritage before it comes knocking on our door, but that is again, CHANCE.
Therefore, anyone can go for classes, attend concerts, be visible at gala dinners, without really having being blue-chip. BUT the desire to blend in, usually takes over, and sadly, that's what tells them apart.