As with all other designated days of celebration, this is another day on the calendar that I find unimportant. This particular occasion is, it's not commercialised like christmas or valentines day - only because it could be any day in a year. I didn't have time to look, but I do wonder, why this day got itself a label on the calendar.
If a marriage is going well, then celebrating it may imply - 'hey, we made it through another year!' If a marriage is not going too well, then celebrating it is like 'duh, we made it through another year in hell' If the marriage has been dissolved, and the dreaded day arrives on the calendar, we say 'it would have been another year of disasters if we hadn't moved on, or is it?'
That's the struggle of life - always having to be one step ahead of whatever.
We say, think and do - just so we are able to move forward - it's called coping.
To simplify my coping ability, I have, for too many years now, adopted the pragmatist approach - I do not attempt to celebrate anything.
Everyday is just as important - because the experiences we undergo become part of who we are. Good, Bad, it's learning how to cope, how to react and how to survive. Imagine if the important days in any given year is just those 5 days : Christmas, New Year, Valentines, Birthday, Anniversary - then we will be seriously short of another 361 experiences which could alter our view of life, entirely!
There are those who tend to really get mad when any of these 5 days are overlooked - well, that is really myopic.
If you need flowers, go buy some for yourself and place them on the dining table - because at the end of the day, you owe it to yourself to be happy.
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