The right time

There will never be a time that is right to say things that may not be appropriate for a situation. Yet, we will come close enough to having this urge.
Good or bad, we tend to appreciate keeping the peace - until another time when that option no longer serves it's purpose.
There are a lot of marriages in this situation.
I was the person listening to estranged couples.
BUT I left doing all that simply because these are not what I would classify as 'real' problems.

Choice is always ours. We choose to stay or leave.
Most stay because of their children.
Some stay because splitting the matrimonial assets would be painful.
Others just don't want to initiate this mess.

Then there are the few who are just waiting for the right time.
BUT when IS the right time?
It's usually when the kids have gone past high school, because they would have already developed the basics in character building, and being a young adult, are better equipped to deal with separated parents. Not that children have no intuition and are unable to pick up the tension, just that it's easier to deal with tense parents than 2 households. At least the financial needs of the children will not be compromised.

BUT whilst waiting for the right time, there will be loneliness that we have to deal with. Someone will have to work till they are so tired they just fall right into dreamland ; because another day means, they are closer to the end.
Morbid, nope, just a shot of honesty.