things do not change

When things are simply cruising in life, the best advice is not to break the momentum. Unfortunately, there are the daft few who prefer to challange the situation and try their luck. It's impossible to understand how daft a person can be, and it all stems out from the need to regain a position.
There are many relationships which exist simply because the foundation is built around other factors. I used to think that a relationship is strong because the couple built their foundation around their friendship. Well, I think that theory is not quite so accurate.
The foundation of any relationship could be any of the contributing factors that revolve around the life of the individual. What becomes 'contributing' would depend upon the individual's anchor. If the individual's anchor is built around the other person, then the relationship is interdependant. BUT what happens when the anchor is built around other things, not necessarily a person?
I have come to this conclusion after many years of relationship suffering. When that happens, it's best for things to be left as it as, because that translates into what we all know as being single.
It's not a bad thing, having the anchor shifted - it hides the shortcomings of the other person without really creating a hostile environment. it creates a more amicable exchange. Of course, the peace lasts for as long as the issue is not brought up. In counselling, we encourage discussions, but after years and years of discussions and no progress, how do we continue such advice? We don't because we would know that one more discussion is not going to make a difference.
Before anyone in that bad situation decides that one more discussion will help, one should think about the grave consequences of going into the arena with nothing but your good looks in hand.