Just how many times do people say things they claim they didn't have intentions to? Far too often.
Actually, verbal cues may not apply at all in some situations because people like to believe that they are being 'politically' and/or 'socially' correct and that they were compelled to respond that way.
BUT take another person, who not only observes such political/social cues but corresponds that with non-verbal cues. Cues may be cues, but non-verbal cues are quite the different story - it's almost unconscious. We hardly think about it. So when drawn into a situation like this, where all cues correspond - we get 'chemistry'.
There is no chemistry, if non-verbal cues are not involved.
So, if a person tells you, he has miscommunicated his intentions, then that's crap because with intent there is consciousness.
Then why do people do that?
I guess it's got to do with their inability to be surefooted. No one likes to think that they are not in control - it's a control issue - Relationships are never about control - our jobs are. If a relationship is reduced to that like a job, then you'd be holding 2 jobs, one that pays and one that hurts.
So, what do we do, when caught with someone like that?
Treat him like a job.
Perhaps, when we do that, he'll realise that with a booming economy, jobs (he) are not that special and not hard to find - and that he was not miscommunicating to us, but to himself. If he can't be honest with himself after too many years, then he'd be running in circles for a long, long time, and one day, all his circles will become one piece of artwork entitled :