I have realised for many years now how my gf, who isn't any different from a majority of parents who give in to their children simply because they do not wish to compete against the other spouse.
This is especially true when marriages have dissolved and custody is being 'shared'.
What parents in such situations do not realise is, the end product, which is this kid they are quarreling over, will grow up without having learnt any discipline. Teens are worse because they would have developed a more secure sense of what is right and wrong and when parents contribute only by giving in, they will never grow up to be people who know how to give others consideration. They will grow up only thinking about themselves - the seedling for selfishness.
So, whilst divorces are rampant - parents should and must remember that no matter how badly their marital relationship has deteriorated, they must at all times 'sing the same song' where their kids are concerned. Thankfully, most kids grow up fine, but there is this increasing number of socially dysfunctional children will become societies dysfunctional adults. We have asked ourselves many times, whenever we come across adults who do not seem to care about anyone else except themselves, how they could live with themselves - but I'm sure we do know the answer - we just prefer to ignore it - because after all, it isn't our problem, is it? That is, it will not be our problem until they 'share' their selfishness with us.
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